The Wrong Currency

What do you do? That’s the first question people ask when they meet someone. Not: Who are you. Not: What moves you. But: What do you do. The answer defines your value. It determines whether the conversation continues or not.

I answered that question for thirty years. With titles, projects, companies, results. The answers were good enough. I functioned in the system. I delivered, got praised, delivered more. The mechanism was simple: performance for recognition. Recognition for self-worth. Self-worth for the ability to get up in the morning and do it all again.

At some point the mechanism stopped working. Not because the performance declined. But because the reward shrank, no matter how much I delivered. It was never enough. Not because the results were lacking, but because the standard grew with them. The performance principle has a quality that nobody talks about: it wears out. Not the body first. The belief that it’s worth it.

There’s a moment that feels like failure but isn’t. The moment you realize you’ve been counting in the wrong currency. That the whole equation, performance equals value equals right to exist, doesn’t add up. Not because you’re failing. But because the equation is wrong.

The performance society has only one answer to the question of what a person is worth: what they produce. Output. Measurable, comparable, replaceable. If you produce nothing, you’re worth nothing. It’s written nowhere, but everyone knows it. It’s in the question “What do you do?”, in the gap on the resume, in the way people look at you when you say you’re not doing anything right now.

But there’s a different currency. Not performance, but contribution. The difference is fundamental. Performance is output for money or status. Contribution is value for others that can’t be expressed in a metric.

A teacher once told me I was ok. Not because I had accomplished something special. But because I was kind. I was sixteen and completely surprised. That someone didn’t measure my worth by a grade but by what I brought into a room. Years later, someone told me that when I’m in a room, the room has a different energy. These aren’t compliments. They’re data points. They show that value exists which can’t be expressed in the language of the performance society.

The problem isn’t that this currency doesn’t exist. The problem is that it’s not accepted. Try answering “What do you do?” with “I’m present and I change the energy in a room.” The conversation is over.

So you lie. You talk about projects, plans, results. You package yourself in the language of performance even when it no longer applies. Not out of vanity. Out of survival instinct. Because the alternative is invisibility.

I believe many people feel this way. People stuck in productivity mills who sense that their real strength lies elsewhere. Who could contribute something that can’t be measured in hours or revenue. But the world has no form for that.

The question “What am I worth if I don’t perform?” is the wrong question. Not because there’s no answer. But because “perform” is the wrong verb. The right question would be: What do I contribute? And then it goes quiet. Not because there’s no answer. But because the answer comes in a language most people have forgotten.